Reality & Fantasies

You know when you dream too much and then you forget that it is not real, and then suddenly, you wake up and realize that your life is not nearly as fun or as interesting as your aspirations? Well, welcome to my life. I have a whole other world in my head, and I forget about the real one, and sometimes I look around and see how boring and sad my life is. I don't live in Paris or London, I am not a famous actress or a successful movie director, I don't go to NYU, I am not dating Niall Horan or Liam Payne... I am nothing. All I have is a small town in the sububrs of New Jersey. Nothing else.

I try to understand the reason of those dreams, of those fantasies, of those parallel worlds that we create in our heads.  But I don't know if it is about understanding the WHYs of those desires, or creating a line separating them from real life. Dreaming is good. Dreaming too much is not that good. When is it enough? When are we supposed to say "go live your life", and when are we supposed to say "go find your lifetime dream" ? They say that our mind is powerful, the more you think about it, the more chances you have for it to happen. Now my question is... how do we create a wall between these worlds and how do we distribute the time we spend in them even? How do we keep control of where we are, without getting lost in one different dimension? Our dreams and fantasies should be kept inside a wardrowe, like Narnia, and whenever we feel like escaping from our lives, we can go there, open the door, and enter the hidden world that nobody else can see, just a for a few minutes.

The problem with dreams and fantasies, is that, just like every other pleasure, they are additive. We see a little bit of something we want, and we want MORE. And more. And more. And out of nowhere, we forget where we are, we lose power of our own life. We get caught up in a fantasy. And when we wake up, we realize that we have nothing at all, we just have memories of moments that never happened. 

But no matter how much we try, we can't avoid having dreams. We can't avoid those fantasies. And of course, we can't avoid reality either. I don't admire the people that live for what they have and enjoy what fate gives them... I admire the people that is able to dream too much, live too much, and make those dreams happen at the same time.

The problem is... waking up from those dreams and getting up from that bed, is always... THE HARDEST PART. But what we tend to forget is how beautiful it feels to live those dreams in real life. There is nothing more beautiful than saying "it felt so real".

"Surgeons usually fantasize about wild, and improbable surgeries. Someone collapses in a restaurant, we slice them open with a butter knife, replace a valve with a hollowed-out stick of carrot. But every now and then, some other kind of fantasy slips in…

Most of our fantasies dissolve when we wake, banished to the back of our minds, but sometimes, we’re sure if we try hard enough, we can live the dream.

The fantasy is simple. Pleasure is good. And twice as much pleasure is better… That pain is bad, and no pain is better…

But the reality is different. The reality is that pain is there to tell us something. And there’s only so much pleasure we can take without getting a stomach ache. And maybe that’s okay. Maybe, some fantasies are only supposed to live in our dreams" - Meredith Grey